Teenager Agreement

KEEP YOUR COMMITMENTS. I want your word to be good, which means that you respect the agreements and promises you have made to me. A foster care contract does not solve the problems of feelings and emotions involved in the relationships between parents and teenagers. It can only serve as a basic agreement allowing you to work on a solution to problems, minimize the interruption and interference that can often occur during the process, control bad behavior, and restructure a family`s rules. The question is, how are parents going to decide that their teen is willing to risk more freedom in the world? My answer is that it respects the provisions of the “freedom treaty”. A standard agreement that allows for effective discipline and adolescent growth. An empty agreement for parents and young people who must fill them together. In fact, the parents are all for the teenager who has some freedom. They call this “responsibility,” the kind of freedom that is shaped by preparation, monitored by conscience, and influenced by judgment – the safest type of freedom there is. It`s the kind of freedom they wish for their teen, for example, when she gets behind the wheel of a car. Clearly state your “absolutes”. These are the rules that will never change. You are the limits that apply to the safety of your teens.

They cannot cross borders. For example, driving while disabled, the passenger of a disabled driver and drug use. If the treaty changes, the non-negotiable rules will remain in place. These are the staple foods that remain independent of your evolving agreement. Give yourself and your family time to discover things gradually. Do not expect immediate dissolution or transformation. Remember that any agreement is an opportunity to restore and adapt family routines that can be unpleasant or difficult. This is normal! Keep breathing and stay patient throughout the process. You and your family can make agreements about screen time, housework, finances or allowances, curfew, safety standards, etc. Your final treaty should be the result of negotiations and compromises and take into account everyone`s ideas. If the whole idea of a home rules contract is likely to collapse, if an agreement between two or more parties, especially the parents, cannot be reached, the whole family should urgently consider consulting a social worker or family therapist, if only for a visit, in order to get an objective third party to break the clutter of the protocol and establish a contract at home, with whom everyone can live….